But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist based in San Francisco, to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous.
You can still have a great time without having one. Which is why the first tip on our guide to having better orgasms is experimenting, and being open to trying new things. I asked the masturbation geniuses behind OMGYes for their tips on having the best orgasms, and their response was eye-opening.
Culturally, we tend to think of orgasms as the be all and the end all of sex. Of course, orgasms are literally referred to as the "climax" of sex. But that doesn't mean there isn't always room for improvement
Speaking as a male, I can't think of anything that remotely equals the thrill of an orgasm. What's weird is that, for all the attention it receives, the male orgasm doesn't get talked about in much detail despite the fact that there can be a huge difference in intensity from one to the next. My guess is that the most women don't know this.
This is a shame, because most men could use some help in the bedroom, both when it comes to pleasing their partner and making their own orgasms stronger. Because you're not likely to get much advice from your friends, we spent some time chatting with sexologists and poring over the latest research to see what we could find. In the end, we came up with nine effective ways for men to take their orgasms to the next level.
In fact, according to one study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior95 percent of heterosexual men said they usually or always orgasm during sex, while just 65 percent of heterosexual women reported the same. And while there are obviously a variety of factors at play, part of this gap might be due to how long it takes both men and women to orgasm. According to Dr.
If you're already orgasming, that's awesome. But what if there was a way to actually make those orgasms last longer, so that you're getting those powerful sensations for a few extra glorious minutes. Turns out, you're in luck — you can prolong your orgasms with a few simple tricks.
For many women, having an orgasm during sex is a cause for celebration, but having one which lasts for over a minute is like winning a gold medal. However, depending on the vibe, yours and their mood and the moves, there are ways you can prolong that prized climax. It's all about the build up. If oral sex is your thing get your partner to go down on you, getting you close to climax and then scale it back a bit.
They say life is about the journey, not the destination. Delaying that final release — in this case, ejaculation — is a really common craving of men everywhere, who, for various reasons, want the penetrative part of sex to last longer. In what seems like a massive oversight of creation — or else a pretty cruel trick — women take around four times as long to reach orgasm through intercourse as their male partners.